Dating ruins friendships
Now it goes something like this:"Happy anniversary, honey! I ordered us the lobster and filet mignon, but first, I really want to give you a speech about how much our love means to me. Like many parts of faith, Christian dating culture is home to many double standards.We encourage women to keep high standards and desire only the godliest of men, yet we pity the “forever alone” single women who seemingly received a lifetime supply of the “gift” of singleness.You can't enjoy a nice dinner out until someone takes a photo of their meal. Now you are refreshing Instagram to see how many likes your polenta got. I think we should see other people."You called in sick to work on a Friday because you wanted to leave early for a little weekend getaway. But your friend stupidly tags you in her status that says: "Headed to Vegas with my girrrrls this morning! Candlelit dinners used to be an intimate experience. Also, the percentage of phones dropped into toilets has risen dramatically over the years. And if your boo doesn't want to make things Facebook official, you are probably constantly questioning why they are holding out.
And first dates are actually third dates because we all know people stalk each other on Facebook to learn as much as they can about the other person before they commit to dinner and/or sex. Sometimes that's a good thing, but the fact that it's a forgotten practice is a little sad.A few years ago, I had just started “talking” to a guy from church, and I told him we should keep things on the down low.I didn’t see the need for everyone to find out too early on. In fact, some of your very best friends are probably members of the opposite sex.Now, that said, you might still have questions about how your single guys see you—particularly that friend in your circle with whom sparks always fly.